A few weeks ago within our culture, there was a fairy tale that girls are not very sexual. If they were, they did not enjoy it, much. It was also a few weeks ago that sexual aids were hidden and shameful. It is safe to say that toys and aids have gone main stream. Women are inherently sexual beings and it is the time one’s sexual re-awakening. Couples know that sexual intimacy is a major player in being happy together. Not main stream sex as the photo shopped implanted poreless, sweatless, hairless perfect creatures who perform manoeuvres designed solely 토닥이 to keep a guy’s penis hard or quickly bring him to ejaculation. I’m talking pleasure, beautiful, raw, real, deep. unencumbered, uninhibited mind blowing physical pleasure and the shared intimacy required to create that state over and over and over again.
Another popular false impression is that men are merely in it for themselves. They just want to blow lots and use a woman to get off. I’d venture to say that most men covertly want to be the best lover that the woman he’s with has ever had. So what is stopping him? To some extent education, . anxiety, general lack of sensual awareness, but a more impressive factor is the woman herself. There are men who are naturally incredible lovers but ladies, you can prime yourselves to be made want to like a sex goddess. It is a women’s responsibility to know what she needs, what she wants, what she likes and to be able to communicate that clearly to the man that she expects to give it to her.
We women know how to male orgasms now. We do it easily and efficiently alone with your toys, often to the different of men who just can’t really get it right. It’s just simpler to get the job done alone. But if you had somebody whoever touch set you on fire, who knew every nuance of your body and knew how it changed day to day : even hour to hour : and accommodated that. With whom you felt comfortable taking as long as you needed to to male orgasms, who you knew would be more than happy to accept directions even as specific as moving his tongue over 1 millitre to the left and half a centimetre lower and going slower, yes slower, yes that is perfect… can you go faster now, and harder… will you massage my Gpot at the same time (without breaking pace)? Press harder please, deeper… Having your body worshiped and pleasured by a perceptive and enthusiastic lover is a treat like nothing else, if you had a man with a magic touch who could do this and take you to another world… you would be more of an enthusiastic participant than an avoider.
Sitting around reading 50 shades of greyish and then getting off alone is not going to ever fully satisfy you, nor is your ideal fantasy man going to sprout out of no place pressuring you from passivity and amazingly turn you into the sex goddess you know you really are. But You can be positive and learn exactly what your body needs and how to communicate that to a man so that he can do it to you and for you. Yes, even the annoying ones who annoy and remorse you and sigh over not getting sex this weekend and find a way to turn you off more with every irritating word they say after 10 years of accomplishing a similar thing. Men, bless them, are willing to learn and like only to see us in ecstasy. And do you know what? Allowing him to do this to you and for you provides you finer together emotionally, resentments amazingly dissolve once ecstatic deals come into play. Truly.
There is a movement towards sensual massage for girls. Legitimate bodywork from educated and skilled passionate professionals of integrity, that heals emotional wounds, enhances body image, increases responsiveness and sexual interest, sexual desire, invigorates and teaches a lady about her body. Teaches her to have power to communicate and get her needs met. It is a breeding ground like no other, safe, comfortable environment of search where the full focus is on your body and your needs. Pamela Madsen is a very visible master in this movement hosting retreats and workshops, many Tantrikas, Dakas and Dakinis and private practitioners such as myself have been doing it subtly for a long time : subtly due to cultural misconceptions about the nature of sensual bodywork. The time has come where women are getting up, reclaiming their libido. They are not playing the victim or passive creature of sexual neglect. We would like, crave, and expect sexual satisfaction and amazing intimacy in our lives and realize now that it is up to us to create it.